So I’ve never watched the show and have no interest in it but regardless of what these men do or say you need to realize that this, like all reality tv, is edited for television and often scripted or coached specifically to generate emotional responses in the audience. (Clearly this is working on you.) Again I don’t know anything about these people and am not excusing behavior but please do not be gullible enough to believe that what you see on screen is at all like reality.